It's okay, thanks for telling me. Let's not worry about it for now, I'll get you to go slow.
（ communication!! ）
Then, let's pick the toy you wanna use, just so it's in easy reach. The plug's got a slightly larger diameter at its widest point, and the dildo's longer. It'll probably be a bit more prep work to take the plug, but you'd have to be slower with the dildo to start. The main difference at this point is that the plug is more meant to stay inside you, maybe while you jerk off, or you can sit on it and rock your hips, you'll feel it move inside you. The dildo's more of an in-out motion, so it's more like the simulation of penetrative sex.
（ he's seated on his bed as he's talking, eating several day old takeout (the cleaning, clearly, has not stuck), one leg stretched out before him, hair dampened from a recent shower. ）
We're gonna start with your fingers, though. It's a pump bottle so it'll be easier to use one-handed. Lots of lube, really cannot stress that enough. Don't stick anything anywhere just yet, for now just get your fingers plenty lubed up, and start exploring. The point is familiarity, both with the sensation and with your response to it. The — （ he pauses, and then: ） Awkward question while we're already balls deep in this, but do you want me to use the clinical terms or the crass ones? 'Anal sphincter' really has a different vibe than 'asshole'.
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（ communication!! ）
Then, let's pick the toy you wanna use, just so it's in easy reach. The plug's got a slightly larger diameter at its widest point, and the dildo's longer. It'll probably be a bit more prep work to take the plug, but you'd have to be slower with the dildo to start. The main difference at this point is that the plug is more meant to stay inside you, maybe while you jerk off, or you can sit on it and rock your hips, you'll feel it move inside you. The dildo's more of an in-out motion, so it's more like the simulation of penetrative sex.
（ he's seated on his bed as he's talking, eating several day old takeout (the cleaning, clearly, has not stuck), one leg stretched out before him, hair dampened from a recent shower. ）
We're gonna start with your fingers, though. It's a pump bottle so it'll be easier to use one-handed. Lots of lube, really cannot stress that enough. Don't stick anything anywhere just yet, for now just get your fingers plenty lubed up, and start exploring. The point is familiarity, both with the sensation and with your response to it. The — （ he pauses, and then: ） Awkward question while we're already balls deep in this, but do you want me to use the clinical terms or the crass ones? 'Anal sphincter' really has a different vibe than 'asshole'.